This article was originally featured in Business INSIDER.
The INSIDER Summary:
• Collette and Scott Stohler travel the world together and write guides for other couples.
• Travel can be stressful, but patience, kindness, and humor keep them strong.
• When traveling as a couple, remember that you’re on the same team.
After seven years and 50 countries together, Collette and Scott Stohler know a thing or two about how to travel as a couple without killing each other. Having quit their jobs to travel the world back in 2015, they now share their advice with other roaming couples through detailed guides on their website, Roamaroo.
The Stohlers spoke to INSIDER from Thailand about how they keep their relationship strong through flight delays and food poisoning, and how you can see the best in your significant other as you see the world together.
Be patient with each other
Jetlag can induce crankiness in even the most agreeable of people. Know that you probably won’t be at your best until you’ve both adjusted to the time change, and treat each other accordingly.
“Both of you need to personally understand that you’re probably going to be affected much more than you think you’re going to be affected, and you need to be a little more patient,” said Scott. “The two of us have learned as we’ve gone along that there are certain things that will add a little more stress. Travel does that. No matter what, there are problems that are going to arise.”
Remember that you’re on the same team
Taking out your frustration on your partner for something that’s out of their control just makes a bad situation worse.
“If you’re a couple, you have to realize that you’re in it together,” said Scott. “To get mad at the other person because maybe they made a mistake or maybe there was something outside of their control is only going to make the situation worse, and then you’re going to ruin the whole purpose of traveling together.”